A month ago, Dino and I had the conversation we both had been avoiding for nearly 2 years. We realized we wanted very different things in our lives – incompatible things. We realized to try to stay together and compromise on our life dreams wouldn’t be fair to either of us. We realized, after 7 years of a good marriage, we could no longer continue to be partners.
We still love each other, and we’re still good friends. This has been the most difficult thing I’ve ever done. I’ve had many good days since; many more than I expected to have. And I’ve had some bad days. Some really bad days. Today is not a good day. I’ve been clingy and oversensitive this week. And I have no one to cling to. I have friends, but that can get awkward and cause some confusing emotions to rise up. To grow through this, I need to learn who I am again, as a single man. That will take time.
I take the good days, and thank God for them. I take the bad days, and remind myself that this too shall pass. I let myself cry when I need to cry. I make myself socialize and be with people, and talk with people, because I know that helps me. I give myself time to heal.
You never fully get over something like this, but you move on. You help others in their times of trial, and through your pain are able to empathize with them in ways you wouldn’t be able to otherwise. Through helping others, you heal, and you help create a world where others can heal.
tl;dr – Divorce sucks, but life goes on, and life is still good.